The Problem With Forcing Our Lenses Onto Our Kids

By Michael Holland There are times as a father when I believe I'm being very open and un-controlling.   I express my concerns or thoughts and then leave it up to my kids to make the decisions they think best for themselves.  But there are subtle ways that we still control our kids, even if [...]

By | October 14th, 2017|Fathering Moments|0 Comments

The Tension of the College Major Question

by Michael Holland      By the time my oldest son was a sophomore in college, he had been asked the question "what's your major" at least 1,000 times.  This question started to come up in middle school: casually at first, both at school and with us, his ever-concerned parents.  Steady progression of the question continued [...]

By | July 31st, 2017|Fathering Moments|0 Comments

Just a Dad Coaching From the Stands

By Michael Holland   There’s the old coach, sitting on the top row of the bleachers watching the game.  He smiles slightly, watching the players move gracefully across the field. He admires the intensity of the coaches as they offer quiet encouragement or bark out directives.  He remembers his early days on the sideline, and [...]

By | March 12th, 2017|Fathering Moments|2 Comments

Why Momentum Does Not Equal Success as a Father

By Michael Holland      Burning the candle on both ends and in the middle makes us feel like we are being successful.  The momentum and pace provide the rush, and we complete our days so exhausted, we we must be making progress.  Right? Wrong. In our frantic pace, we work "just another 25 minutes", [...]

By | February 20th, 2017|Man-Up Moments|0 Comments

What I Learned About Being a Father From Ballet Class

By Michael Holland      In college I had the “opportunity” to take a ballet class for a semester with my girlfriend at-the-time and my two very single roommates.  My understanding and experience in the field of ballet was non-existent, and my appreciation for a dance as a sport was less than mature.  Throughout the course I [...]

By | February 4th, 2017|Man-Up Moments|0 Comments

Game Time: Answering a 15-Year-Old’s Question on Jesus

by Michael Holland      "Why is it so hard for my friend who's Catholic to understand I'm a Follower of Jesus Christ?" What a great question my then son brought to us late one night.  I love these fathering moments: the ones when you are put on the spot to answer for a 15-year-old a question [...]

By | August 13th, 2016|Fathering Moments|0 Comments

The $10 App: Practical Fathering or Inspirational Fathering

By Michael Holland      We fathers work hard to provide for our families. We work to instill core beliefs in our kids that will ideally guide them to develop critical thinking skills.  So when my 17-year-old daughter came to me one night and asked for a favor, I was a bit surprised:  she wanted to [...]

By | April 2nd, 2016|Fathering Moments|0 Comments

Have the Courage to Be a True Statesman, Not Just a Politician

by Michael Holland      I'm inspired by a post of Brett & Kate McKay, The 4 Qualities of a Statesman, which encouraged me to reflect upon my personal leadership style at home and in my business. In every aspect of our lives, we can choose to be politicians or statesmen. Though we use the [...]

By | March 18th, 2016|Man-Up Moments|0 Comments

Read the Clues of Your Kids

by Michael Holland As fathers, we race through our days, slaying the beasts in the wilderness to create a safe home at night.  Sometimes we're so busy protecting our kids that we forget to take the time to actually see how they engage with the environment surrounding them. More importantly, we sometimes forget to watch [...]

By | March 11th, 2016|Fathering Moments|0 Comments

Movie Review of Your Kids

by Michael Holland      As you eat breakfast, make mental notes on some aspect of each of your kids’ activities from the previous day or evening.   Visualize the situation and make a mental movie of the impact of the activity or behavior had on them and/or others. During your afternoon commute home, take [...]

By | February 26th, 2016|Fathering Moments|0 Comments