self reflective

The Problem With Forcing Our Lenses Onto Our Kids

By Michael Holland There are times as a father when I believe I'm being very open and un-controlling.   I express my concerns or thoughts and then leave it up to my kids to make the decisions they think best for themselves.  But there are subtle ways that we still control our kids, even if [...]

By |2018-12-04T15:47:32-05:00October 14th, 2017|Fathering Moments|0 Comments

Just a Dad Coaching From the Stands

By Michael Holland   There’s the old coach, sitting on the top row of the bleachers watching the game.  He smiles slightly, watching the players move gracefully across the field. He admires the intensity of the coaches as they offer quiet encouragement or bark out directives.  He remembers his early days on the sideline, and [...]

By |2017-03-12T11:06:25-04:00March 12th, 2017|Fathering Moments|2 Comments

Walking PhD Reading List – 2016

By Michael Holland      In pursuit of my self-described Christian Businessman PhD, I started on a quest in early 2010 to read 100 books to increase my knowledge, exposure and intellect.  I achieved that goal in late 2012 and now, each year, I strive to read as many books as possible while also listening to [...]

By |2021-12-20T16:04:54-05:00January 2nd, 2017|Man-Up Moments|Comments Off on Walking PhD Reading List – 2016

Remembering Our Original Commitments

by Michael Holland      In our fast-track worlds, we all develop a priority system that helps us to make sure we are accomplishing as much as humanly possible.  The reality is that we’re actually over-committed most of the time, which results in us stealing a bit of time from here and a bit of [...]

By |2016-10-28T10:54:27-04:00October 28th, 2016|Fathering Moments|0 Comments

A 30 Mile Zip-line to the Lake

by Michael Holland      I hiked Cascade Mountain in the Adirondacks with some men recently on a drop-dead gorgeous day.   I'm sure we expelled a good bit of sweat to reach this mountain's bald summit, but the 360-degree view of the surrounding mountains, valleys, and lakes of the Adirondacks was certainly worth it.   To the east [...]

By |2016-10-21T08:27:53-04:00October 21st, 2016|Man-Up Moments|0 Comments

Trending Well as a Man and Father

by Michael Holland     As my friend Jerry says, you can have a bad day or bad month or even a bad year,  but it’s pretty hard to have a bad 5 years.  And what is important in life is not individual days or months, but your trend line.  And the measure of your success [...]

By |2018-12-04T15:47:33-05:00February 19th, 2016|Man-Up Moments|0 Comments

When the Season of Life Doesn’t Turn Out Like You Thought

By Michael Holland We plan and guide and push and pull our kids towards paths that we envision will help them be successful in life.  What's been so interesting for us over the last couple of years is how different the paths our kids have taken have been from our vision.  I find myself in [...]

By |2016-02-13T16:01:20-05:00February 13th, 2016|Fathering Moments|Comments Off on When the Season of Life Doesn’t Turn Out Like You Thought