by Michael Holland
As we walk through each day, we make what seem to be minor decisions and take small actions to solve whatever problems might arise. These decisions and actions in and of themselves are not wrong. But we should be asking ourselves if these decisions and actions are wise for us.
Being wise paints a different picture than being right. Being wise requires more discernment, more balancing of emotional intelligence, and more of a desire to seek greater impact.
When I find myself at that tipping point of “oh crap, I’m here again”, I really need to realize that the moment didn’t just suddenly rise up. It came about as a result of a series of unwise decisions or actions. The slippery slope of my own accumulated choices brought me to this tipping point; this moment of “oh crap- this isn’t where I want to be”.
I love the way Andy Stanley coaches us up to think this through. Andy’s framework directs us to ask what our “wise” decision is based on: (1) past experiences, (2) current situation, or (3) future hopes and dreams. (When using this list to help discern which choice is the wise one, keep in mind that each person’s past, present, and future are unique to themselves.) When we put this framework into play with our decision-making, we create the opportunity for greater discernment and wiser decisions.
As men and fathers, we must continue to improve. We must become wiser and make better decisions. We must work hard to become a wise man walking.