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Movie Review of Your Kids

by Michael Holland      As you eat breakfast, make mental notes on some aspect of each of your kids’ activities from the previous day or evening.   Visualize the situation and make a mental movie of the impact of the activity or behavior had on them and/or others. During your afternoon commute home, take [...]

By |2016-03-21T17:26:15-05:00February 26th, 2016|Fathering Moments|0 Comments

When the Season of Life Doesn’t Turn Out Like You Thought

By Michael Holland We plan and guide and push and pull our kids towards paths that we envision will help them be successful in life.  What's been so interesting for us over the last couple of years is how different the paths our kids have taken have been from our vision.  I find myself in [...]

By |2016-02-13T16:01:20-05:00February 13th, 2016|Fathering Moments|Comments Off on When the Season of Life Doesn’t Turn Out Like You Thought

How To Survive The Teenage Daughter Season of Life

By Michael Holland      "Even when I breathe I disgust my daughter."  A man quoted this to me this week as he described his current season of life with 2 teenage daughters.  What is it about teenage girls that requires them to vent every ounce of frustration and drama at their parents?  These teenage [...]

By |2018-12-04T15:47:33-05:00October 24th, 2014|Fathering Moments|Comments Off on How To Survive The Teenage Daughter Season of Life

The Crazy Rules We Establish for Kids

by Michael Holland     Each year I’m committed to reading completely through the Bible.  This year I’m reading the Chronological Bible, which aligns events according to when they occurred. At the moment, I am in the Leviticus era, and no matter how many times I read through this book, I struggle with the tremendously detailed rules [...]

By |2014-11-10T07:23:42-05:00March 25th, 2014|Fathering Moments|Comments Off on The Crazy Rules We Establish for Kids

4 All-Nighters That Aren’t Good for Dads

by Michael Holland     I, like many of you out there, leveraged more than one all-nighter while in college in order to cram for a big project or test. Procrastination, underestimation of the work involved, and overconfidence in my capability to work well under pressure all were at work in rationalizing the all-nighters.   The success that [...]

By |2014-11-08T07:10:20-05:00March 14th, 2014|Fathering Moments|Comments Off on 4 All-Nighters That Aren’t Good for Dads

The Best Dads Want Kids Who Are Thinkers

by Michael Holland     I believe one of the hardest behaviors I've had to learn as a dad is to hold back on solving a situation for one of my kids so that they can make their own decision.  It can be crushing to watch the events unfold, visualizing potential train wrecks as I struggle against [...]

By |2015-10-30T10:32:09-05:00February 15th, 2014|Fathering Moments|Comments Off on The Best Dads Want Kids Who Are Thinkers

Stop Dragging Your Kid to Church

by Michael Holland     At a church on any given Sunday, you can see the teenage kids taking their seats and playing the part.  They have been dragged unwillingly to church, so they put themselves into that dead space between being actively engaged and full-out rebellion.  They participate as little as possible, leverage technology as much [...]

By |2014-10-29T09:17:31-05:00February 7th, 2014|Fathering Moments|Comments Off on Stop Dragging Your Kid to Church

In My First Marriage

by Michael Holland     The words flowed easily for me: “. . . in my first marriage….” They referenced something that was a part of my life:  I was married before right out of college.  I consciously made that decision and it is part of my history, impacting who I am today.  But the reaction from [...]

By |2014-10-27T08:16:53-05:00January 22nd, 2014|Fathering Moments|Comments Off on In My First Marriage

A Father’s 360-Degree Feedback Survey

by Michael Holland     In business, I have the opportunity to help executives gain feedback on how others perceive their leadership behaviors and impact via a 360-degree feedback survey.  The survey gathers feedback from the executive’s direct reports, his peers, and his boss, forming a full circle of perceptions.   The multiple vantage points provide a great [...]

By |2018-12-04T15:47:34-05:00November 1st, 2013|Fathering Moments|0 Comments

Frozen Peas and the Guilt of a Broken Finger

by Michael Holland     When our youngest son was 8 years old, he was climbing up into a tree fort at a neighbor’s house.  The access was through one of those nifty trap doors in the floor, and as Jesse neared the top of the ladder, he reached up to the edge of the opening to [...]

By |2018-12-04T15:47:34-05:00September 20th, 2013|Fathering Moments|0 Comments